Samy is a 2 year old black poodle who I have had for two years. I am crazy about him and he is crazy about me. I have had to move to a small apt., I work full time and I don't have the time to devote to him that he deserves. I want him to have a good home and I think I have found one, the people who will be taking him said I could visit, I would like to do this but I don't want to make it harder on Samy (I am his entire world) should I do it? or should I just kiss him goodbye, walk away and never look back?
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I had a dog a couple years ago that I had to rehome, also. I still go and visit him occasionally, and he is always happy to see me, but isn't upset when I leave. I waited a few months after I dropped him off before I actually went to visit, to avoid confusing him. I'd give Samy some time to get used to his new home before visiting, but you could still call them frequently to check up on him : )
This is only my opinion. I would walk away. I believe you would make it harder on Samy by seeing him and then when you leave he will be sad. Also you will feel sadder every time you see him.
A very hard decision good luck.
that's a tough call.you really have to think about how hard it will be on you to go see him and know that he's no longer yours
if you are close to were he is then go for it or see how the people are with him, you may even be better to say your goodbyes cause it will be hard to see him with someone else maybe even make it gradual
It will be harder on you than it will be on him. Dogs get over things and move on much faster than us humans do. For your own sake I would visit once or twice to make sure he has found a good home and then let him go.
One day you might go to visit and find that he is more
interested in his new family than you and it will hurt for you.
Dogs adapt in amazing ways, let this happen.
Yes if it makes you feel good do so. But give the new family and your dog time to get a bond. So it don't confuse the pet. Maybe call for a while as so it you don't pester. But I see nothing wrong with time to visit. But show respect to their rules as it may have changed a little (maybe not) But allow them to appear the alpha or lead and you secondary or like a guest. Maybe avoid bringing favorite toys or treats. I feel for you but you are being responsible.
leave him alone for a couple of days and he will never even remember you
That's a really tough one. If it was me I know I would be tempted to visit as often as possible but that will make it really hard on you because you can't take him home with you and it may confuse Samy. I'd try to settle him in gradually, leave him for a few hours, over night, a few days and then visit him a few weeks later when he is settled in and then do a visit a few months later to see how he is going... or perhaps arrange to meet him at the park so it's neutral territory. Respect his new owners, while they say it's fine to visit they may get sick of you visiting all the time. Good luck and I hope Samy adjust to him new home well!
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